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| The Bad Day Thread | |
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| Topic Started: Dec 20 2017, 03:04 PM (1,877 Views) | |
| magpiealamode | Dec 21 2017, 12:47 AM Post #16 |
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You miss the point of this thread. It's not about us all dwelling on how miserable we are, rather it was set up as a place to voice what's been bothering us and seek advice/encouragement. Besides, it's the "bad day" thread, not "bad life" thread. We all have bad days and we need a way to process it with other humans. I just said myself that circumstances are not the key to happiness, but I also cannot stress enough the legitimacy of people's emotions. Then there's good ol' depression, which is often has physiological as well as mental/emotional roots. Sorry about your pet, by the way. Pets are precious and losing them is hella difficult. Edited by magpiealamode, Dec 21 2017, 12:49 AM.
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| Danny | Dec 21 2017, 01:15 AM Post #17 |
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Ah yes so when I point out the legitimate emotional struggle of balancing a long-distance relationship, holiday (without reception mind you), research job and volunteer job it's not okay. I take everything in a lighthearted manner so yeah, I was mocking because I genuinely am happy with my life. But just because someone else thinks my life is a fairy tale doesn't mean it is. I just about guarantee that pity-parties, regardless of how genuine the issues are, will create a rather negative atmosphere. Making a topic for people to do that and then buttering them up with support is a noble idea though, I guess. Bets are on that the same people will use this thread day in, day out. As you said, it's a "bad day" thread not a "bad life" thread. Gaia made one of these threads a while back and that's how TRT was born. A little birdy told me that a new site was in the works... |
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| magpiealamode | Dec 21 2017, 01:56 AM Post #18 |
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We didn't mean to call you out for what you're struggling with, rather the mocking manner in which you did it. It just wasn't very sensitive to do that in a place where some people had already decided to be vulnerable about genuine struggles they have. I'm glad that you're happy with your life! Just because you are doesn't mean everyone else can and must be. Because let's be honest, if I could just positively think away the hardships I've faced, like oh, the damage I've suffered to my mind and self-image due to losing my father at age five, or the anxiety which constantly tells me something is wrong even when I have no idea what it's talking about, or the clinical depression which is constantly lingering but gets way worse during the winter, or my fear of being unable to progress with my academic career due to mistakes and inadequacies which was damn near realized this semester, why wouldn't I? And that's just me. Life is full of difficulty and trauma which is inescapable. Humans are a social species, we need to work through this stuff together. Encouraging someone is not "buttering them up" and frankly I take insult that you would say that; encouragement is a vital part of processing the human experience. This whole "creating a negative atmosphere" shtick is bull. That undermines what Fireplume wanted to do here. He wanted to give people a place to feel like they were being listened to, not to tell the world how sorry they feel for themselves. It makes major assumptions about everyone who has posted in this thread. Please, do us all a favor and stop cheapening people's unhappiness. Just because you don't experience something doesn't mean it doesn't exist. I understand that you don't want people to dwell on being unhappy, that is a totally legitimate concern. But you've presented it in such a manner as to imply that one can simply will themselves to be positive about, oh, I don't know, confronting the very real possibility of losing their mother (another thing I had to deal with this year) and that voicing and seeking help for one's emotional hardships is going to do nothing but bring us down. |
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| Danny | Dec 21 2017, 02:01 AM Post #19 |
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| Fireplume | Dec 21 2017, 02:48 AM Post #20 |
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Oof to think I just wanted a serious thread to help out the members cause we all need someone to lean on at times... ugh. Whatever then, apparently my Uncle [great great uncle I think?] passed away while I was at work today. Pretty cruddy. |
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| Furka | Dec 21 2017, 04:14 AM Post #21 |
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Being worried that I'm getting too pessimistic about life, I mean, I've always been, but now it feels like it's getting to the point I can barely enjoy the good things that come in life. I finally managed to get in the 8 months work experience at our local Natural History Museum, after months of failures trying to find something to do, and instead of being happy about it I'm already sitting here wondering what I'll do with my life after that (it hasn't even started yet) ... University just keeps feeling more like part of the problem rather than the solution, unlike what everyone wants me to believe, and the fact the horrible weather and drought made this the worst year for fishing and thus prevented me from doing the one thing in my life that still gives me satisfaction doesn't help at all. |
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| kepperbob | Dec 21 2017, 05:59 AM Post #22 |
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Where I should Start..Oh Yes.Every day of my life is a terrible day and I must get off this island. |
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Dec 21 2017, 07:11 AM Post #23 |
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This. If I could like this more than one, I would. You are being both incredibly insensitive and an outright bully with your statements and mocking tone in this thread, Danny. There's nothing wrong with people voicing their problems to get encouragement, (not buttering them up, which is also quite dickish to say). As said, we are a social species and it's been proven time and again that bottling up emotions, -- especially negative ones can have a hugely detrimental effect on a person and not everyone is confident or strong enough yet to talk to someone in person, therapy can also be incredibly expensive. But because you are an optimist and there is nothing wrong with that, apparently everyone else must be an optimist too? We should all try to see the glass half full but sometimes you just can't and there's nothing wrong with that, honestly, I feel you should be ashamed of your posts in this topic and refrain from posting here again if the negativity is something that bothers you. |
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| Murdock129 | Dec 21 2017, 09:52 AM Post #24 |
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Support ≠ 'Buttering up', encouragement ≠ 'Buttering up', and taking the time to talk and externalize one's issues and struggles in an environment of support is certainly not creating a 'pity party'. The ZT2 community is supposed to be just that, a community of individuals who come together in online, and thus people have chosen to be a little more open and seek support from that community with regards to issues going on in their current lives. They want to create an atmosphere where people can be open and honest with one another, and talk honestly about how they feel and find comfort from one another, but you are the one creating a negative atmosphere by essentially laughing in their faces. Pretending that everything in life can be handled simply by focusing on the positive things is pretty disengenuous at best, and legitimately harmful to people who may be going through struggles at worst. Combined with your blatant mockery of other people seeking support during less than perfect times just makes you come across as a childish bully, which given your actions within the community in past years doesn't seem like an inaccurate label. One of the tenants of this community was always supposed to have been the simple rule of 'Try to be nice to each other'. Childishly mocking those who are unhappy is something that just isn't viewed as pleasant or acceptable in real life nor should be in this community, and frankly it was the actions of those like yourself that lead me to leave in general. In short, Danny, grow up. |
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| Ignacio | Dec 21 2017, 10:05 AM Post #25 |
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| Furka | Dec 21 2017, 12:44 PM Post #26 |
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I think it's time we return the topic to it's original subject. It was made for people to open themselves, not to be turned into another ring of the comunity. Ignacio, you've been on the site long enough to know the meaning of spam. Don't make us waste time for it. |
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Dec 21 2017, 11:59 PM Post #27 |
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aight, so i don't generally have any bad days (other than the day my "friend" called the bloody feds on me for a prank he did), but it has been legit stressful. i've been studying to take the test to get into college and im constantly getting slammed with "you can't do it, you'll never make it in time" and the amount of pressure is infuriating. these are the days when i'm glad i'm deaf so i can shut out the rest of the world and focus on my peaceful thoughts. Edited by Narukota, Dec 22 2017, 12:05 AM.
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| magpiealamode | Dec 22 2017, 01:51 AM Post #28 |
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Yeah school sucks. The additional pressure from people who think you can't make it is infuriating. Good luck though! I hope it goes well, let us know. |
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| Cross | Jan 11 2018, 03:35 PM Post #29 |
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Inevitable. My group of friends were able to switch lunches in my school, but I unfortunately am not able to adhere to their schedule due to certain circumstances. I do have ... fond memories of sitting alone in the cafeteria, with nobody to exchange banter with, and stay near. It’s up until now that I felt that same way again, and this time, it hit me like a goddamned ton of bricks. I’m at least happy that the class I was just in earlier doesn’t seem to appreciate or care about what I say, contribute, or at least endeavor about in it. But that steamrolled me as well. Edited by Cross, Jan 11 2018, 03:58 PM.
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| Tyranachu | Jan 11 2018, 04:26 PM Post #30 |
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Apparently they’re closing down the school that gives special education to deaf children beside my girlfriend’s former high school. This really hits hard since I have a deaf-blind friend who came from there, and she’s been severely affected by the news. She worked hard to get a degree in education to teach there, and to find out it’s closing down really just ruined everything for her. |
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