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Topic Started: Mar 5 2013, 11:20 PM (695,072 Views)
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Murdock is my first and last boyfriend and before him I was in love with the same guy for like 4 years but he was a jock and only interested in a girl if you slept with him - which I wouldn't do. I had a few other crushes during that time but none of them were as serious and were fleeting - few weeks, maybe a month or so and then they would pass.

But then I met Murdock and was quite happy, and now we've been together for six years. And we're quite honest with each other, we're both best friends and life partners, which I think is quite important for a relationship succeeding. Me and Murdock can sit and play a video game together or talk about things we find gross and things just like we were the best of friends. I never feel afraid of telling Murdock if something makes me uncomfortable and vice versa. Of course just like friends, sometimes we don't agree on something and have an argument, but it's not the end of the world.

The only thing I can ever tell anyone is not to sweat it, the person for you will come along, just keep your mind and heart open to it and love can be so wonderful with the right person.
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There's no time table for when you should find your significant other, either. Worrying that because you haven't had a boyfriend/girlfriend/fiance/husband/wife by "age X" is silly. You'll get there when you get there, and if anyone has anything to say about it, tell them to mind their own business. I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 years, and we've known each other for more than 15 years. My mother is CONSTANTLY asking when we're going to get married, have kids, etc. It's caused more than one fight when I've told her to stop asking, we're in no rush, we don't feel like we need a wedding or rings to validate our relationship, etc.

You can't worry about doing what makes other people happy. Do whatever makes YOU happy, and if you ARE happy, you have to learn how to ignore the complaints others have about your relationship (or lack thereof).

And if you're asexual, you're asexual. I just wouldn't rush to slap labels on yourself before you've even hit your mid-twenties (which may still be too early). You have a lot of life to experience still, a lot of people to meet, and things to learn about yourself. The vast majority of your friends who are "crushing on" or "dating" other people aren't going to remember those people's names in a decade. I know I hated hearing this when I was younger, but you have SO MUCH to look forward to and figure out, so stop feeling like you need to hit these milestones as quickly as possible. It won't be long before you're looking back at this point in your life and wishing things were as simple, as fun, and as exciting as they were "back then." Enjoy it :P
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eternal finessé

Actually MiBound is downright correct. I would give it a few more days, no, years, no, decades, before I could decide that. And those 'friends' of mine in school, they are so hilarious and foolish that they are in a relationship, go to a date, and break up within 24 hours. xD

I don't mind when and which gender I fall in love with (or maybe not fall in love) I want to live my life as a student. ;)

Speaking of which, I failed in maths by 2 marks. And I am listening to gloomy Sunday. My parents are filling buckets with tears (high-expectations Asian parents). I...just want to die right now.
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Relationships, uhhhg. You should enjoy the single life, don't rush it.
I've been in and out of relationships since I was 13 years old, when I was 13, I thought he was the love of my life - but of course he wasn't :P We broke up after 2 years, when I was 15. A year later, when I was 16, I got a new boyfriend, I guy that actually wasn't that nice. I finally managed to break up with him when I was 18, it was not pretty. Just a month after the breakup, I met Kevin, and we are still a couple.

I wished I wasn't in such a rush. I would love to be single just a little longer, just being free and no need to think about anyone else but myself. I haven't felt like that since I was 13. Now I'm stuck here and I can't talk to who I want, I can't see who I want, forget going to parties and other social events. Well, you should really enjoy yourself while you're young, while love still feels like butterflies in your stomach. I miss it :(
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@ fridooh - go to heck. You have now depressed me xD Ah how I miss the days of being single .. being able to do and go where I pleased. I don't even remember the last time I snuck off to a movie. With three children, a puppy, and a messy hubby I sometimes think hard about running away lol. It is all worth it in the end though. I hate being alone - though I wish my other half *cough cough* would clean a bit more.

I have just finished decorating. We just have to do our deck and a few of the doors. I dress all the doors up like presents with ribbons and big bows. It looks like Christmas exploded in here. We decorate everywhere ... even the walls with stick ups and decor. It sure sets the mood to enjoy all these holiday specials :D
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So today I talked to the ex (thanks for that expression MiBound, sounds waaaaay better than 'my ex'). Not very pretty, lots of yelling, especially from my side. Glad that it's over. Went out with another girl tonight, not someone I have any romantic plans with because that'd be too soon.

I also contacted the gf of the guy with who the ex cheated on me (yeah he also had a girlfriend) and I'm waiting for a reply.

Today was a good day.
Edited by Stephen, Dec 8 2014, 07:10 PM.
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Snok Snok Snerson

I just marathon'ed Walking With Beasts and then loads of Once Upon a Time.

Life is good in this rainy weather (dude it's actually raining here like water is falling from the sky)
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Just ordered a new computer with a little bit of money-help from the family. I suppose my computer could have picked a worse time to fry, like January. xD
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Stephen
Dec 8 2014, 07:09 PM
So today I talked to the ex (thanks for that expression MiBound, sounds waaaaay better than 'my ex'). Not very pretty, lots of yelling, especially from my side. Glad that it's over. Went out with another girl tonight, not someone I have any romantic plans with because that'd be too soon.

I also contacted the gf of the guy with who the ex cheated on me (yeah he also had a girlfriend) and I'm waiting for a reply.

Today was a good day.
Wow, you've got yourself quite a situation there. I'm sure she'll be pretty devastated, it's not fun information to say the least. Cheating is rock bottom, I have no respect for those who do it.

On topic, I just cleaned the whole house. It looks like strait from an interior magazine now!
Let's just see how long that lasts with a puppy and a messy boyfriend.. xD
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I REALLY messed up my knee at recess today, I can barely walk :(
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Dec 8 2014, 07:23 PM
I just marathon'ed Walking With Beasts and then loads of Once Upon a Time.

Life is good in this rainy weather (dude it's actually raining here like water is falling from the sky)
Wait what? How does rain simply go to a desert and leave a city between the Pacific coastline and the Santa Monica Mountains dry? Now I'm jealous.
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Snok Snok Snerson

Not too sure but apparently now everyone not on high ground is floating away :/

Good thing I have a pickup so I can help them.
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So we were just driving around and when we drove past this field I saw a scarecrow that totally looked like Jesus xD .
Edited by Furka, Dec 9 2014, 11:10 AM.
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Finished some PC:E matches. Time to hover over the forum and observe humans. ._.
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To add to what everyone was saying about relationships:

I am by no means an expert in this area, not by a long-shot, but I am happily in-love at the moment and I hope it lasts, but one can never really tell. I have had a few "crushes" since I was around 13, but nothing ever really came about from them. For the months before I met Rowan I was not really interested in a relationship, certainly not in the romantic sense, but it sort of just... Happened. I don't think anyone should enter a relationship unless they are entirely happy about it, I have seen many couples split so quickly because the individuals didn't seem completely happy with one another. In some cases it almost seemed to be no more than normal friendship, just with a label attached saying "couple". These rarely lasted longer than a month, most of the pairs never even touched lips.

I am extremely happy as I am now, I have only been in a relationship with Rowan for about month, but we are very open with eachother, and are very comfortable with eachother. I don't find it easy to trust, due to my past, but I feel like I can say anything to her, which is a good sign. We have fun together and we make eachother very happy. I really hope this doesn't end like so many others I have seen around me.

You must be patient with love though, don't go looking, give it time and it will find you. I did not expect I would find a partner in this forum, I actually didn't want one, but there you go...


Flower, I would give it a few years at least, everybody is different.
Edited by Burroughs, Dec 9 2014, 04:34 PM.
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